Comments on Three Girls Grown Up: Doing the Right Thing

You are right - humans are capable of behaving bet...

2005-11-03T07:02:00.000-06:00

You are right - humans are capable of behaving better, with respect, with thoughtfulness and compassion . . . and it should be expected, but so many humans opt to behave just as any other animal - out of fear, out of desire, with little thought as to the consequences and with the goal of minimizing energy output, it seems.

Never Fear, though
I have no doubt Julius will be an excellent role model because you are thougtful and compassionate and you go great lengths to learn and teach. You are a good role model and so is that Rob and Julius will map onto your behaviors and be terrific!

We are primates who have evolved enough to make go...

2005-09-26T15:12:00.000-05:00

We are primates who have evolved enough to make good use of manners and understand about personal boundaries.

At the time I wasn't thinking about it from an sociological or anthropological perspective. And I'm a firm believer in the eat-or-be-eaten hierarchy of life. However, as humans we are capable of taking the next step and overcoming our animal instincts -- although maybe not at nine or ten.

I still don't think it's asking too much to expect little boys not to beat the crap out of each other. There are a lot of young boys who manage to go through life not being bullies.

It's possible to be a dominant force among your peers without harming the people in your sphere of influence.

I have too much of my mom in me -- I like to right the wrongs even the ones that really aren't my business. Can't help it. It's genetic!

As far as Julius... I'm not too worried about him. As big as I think he will be, I doubt anyone is going to try to kick his butt. Hopefully he will pick a good circle of people. My best wish for him is to learn strength of character, to understand the principles of leadership and be a GOOD man full of virtue, courage and compassion.

It's a mother's wish, I know, but I think I would spend my only wish on that even if I had just one.

We are primates.Boys have to establish heirarchy a...

2005-09-22T20:03:00.000-05:00

We are primates.

Boys have to establish heirarchy and this all happens in these young years. By asking that boy to apologize you told him to be submissive. Not that I am saying you shouldn't do that, but we really are just animals and that is what was going on. Blue boy is destined to be at the bottom of the pack.

I have found it difficult to watch my nephew, who was always small, but very smart for his age and that combination brought him a lot of grief in elementary school. He could zing him with his words but they got him in dodge ball.

Things work out later. At least for my nephew, who is now in High School and he is really in his element.

But it's a crazy primate world.

Teach that julius karate!